Dealing with ‘complexes’ of being the main character

main character syndrome

Non conventional cinema and even mainstream content today might have managed to eke out their sidekicks in interesting enough a light of their projection that has us vouching for them at least in as much enthusiasm as we do for the heroes intended to carry entire shows on their shoulders. But the fascination with the main character is something very eternal, both in regards to its universality and in its timeless premise, and sometime that holds still the charms of importance. Whether it be a stemming from across the pages of the novel you have come to identify as a story of your own or a playing out of tales from across the fictional reality of screens, fantasising about the main character to such extents that we begin to instead imagine ourselves in their place of what we hold to be commanding of the ultimate attention is something we have all encountered. Perhaps as an awestruck child, perhaps as a somewhat self obsessed teenager or perhaps sometimes even as a dreamy still adult, this fixation with the main character’s might of coming to dwell everytime at such spots where they are the naturalmost center of all attraction has been something we have all chased invariably, even unintentionally. But despite all its grandiose visage in imagination or at most in a realm only parallel with the actual reality, we know for sure that this ain’t an existence likely to conform to our living of the practical life. And yet, even such stark realisation of only imagining up the almost impossible does not let us let go of that transfixed state of absolute fancy that we harbour in all fantasy. So much so that our belief in such a parallel existence of sorts makes for a veritable crossover into our real lives, in such psychological assertions that itself spans as quite interesting an identity we like to view ourselves in.

Popularly explored as the main character syndrome across numerous references to it mostly across social media, this is very self explanatory a condition we find ourselves more and more in the garb of. The behaviour itself is obscure in its origins and prevalence but it has been the rather ample evidence of it splattered across the digital platforms on which we have indeed come to live an alternate reality that is what has endowed upon it its very apt identity. Pertaining therefore to the jargon of a non medical kind even when the nature of it makes it fit enough to classify as a psychological condition is this main character syndrome that is not very different from the traits of that forever called out behaviour called narcissism. Most commonly understood as a millennial condition probably due to its rise in ‘popularity’ from across the expanse of the social world upheld by digital virtues even when it indeed is a far more commonly ancient residence of the human mind, this whole assertion of the human tendency to covet oneself is today even charted as a ‘trend’, as being one of the many that defines our largely online existence at definite moments in time. All these and similar such attributes that the main character syndrome is quite outspoken in point it to being a rather unfavourable awareness for anyone of us to exist in. That largely seems to be the case though tied to it can also be somewhat positive, or rather realistic considerations of life and living making thereby this fictional prejudice not wholly wasteful a notion of the human existence.

As a personality flaw that has the ‘afflicted’ pursuing such sentiments of their own that make them believe themselves to be the center of all attraction of the world, the main character syndrome is perhaps exhibited by all of us in some degree of its assertion. Occurring therefore quite aggressively across certain persona and as more repressed for some others, the dominant extent of the syndrome might have come to the fore only in the very recent year of 2020 but the term has been quietly doing the rounds since at least the first decade of the 21st century. A 2009 definition in Urban Dictionary relating to it establishes the main character syndrome already as very much what we still consider it to be today. But while this essential exploration in drawing similarities between one’s real existence and some particular or even general fictional ones is what indeed makes up the crux of this ‘problem’, the associated avenues of its dimension have expanded. With such desirable traits as individuality and quirks having found their way into this range of behavior, the main character syndrome today is more classic a case for psychology to pursue.

main character syndrome
Source: Metro

Innately though, any mention of being characterised by such mind workings that has us more, read almost exclusively inclined towards our own selves is what the main character syndrome encompasses in all its essence. And to that extent it indeed is problematic, this viewing of one’s life as a film of which they are the main character of all pompous self importance and undermining everyone else believed to be existing only to entertain that single entity of existence in lavish attention being the most basic notion in which the main character tends to dwell, rather vainly in their own bubble is very apparent a close connect of the potentially destructive narcissistic personality disorder.

Why this exaltation of oneself by one’s own accords is harmful does not need to be reiterated. But to drive indeed our point of the main character syndrome not being a condition in perfection we would still like to state it out clear and loud. Firstly, having too aggravated a fancied view of oneself impedes development and leads individuals to live their life in a seemingly perfect world of themselves in which they care about none and reap therefore the same in return. Needless to say, that impacts the functioning of humans as social animals dependent on one another for both physical and emotional survival. People with the main condition syndrome therefore end up isolating themselves immensely to such extents that they are left without any real connect to fall back on during hard times. That though is only part of the problem, the greater and more worrying part being their refusal to accept this unwanted existence in self delusion that which makes them even more prone to being shunned by society, not in the traditional sense of the term but effectively still to such extents that can make living a difficult prospect to encounter at some point of time in their lives that are as unpredictable as those of any other despite their inflated sense of self importance.

The other mode of working of this too much obsession with their own self that leads such people to look down upon others is what is equally damning. In exaggerating their identity, these oxymoronic real but impractical still residences of the main characters end up dismissing the existence of others to such extent that they tend to regard anyone except themselves as worthless. That is a mentality rather disturbing in its pursuance, both for the one furthering such notion of extremes and the ones subjected to the humiliation exerted by it. In such negative assertions of what it mostly tends to be, it is no surprise that bearers of the main character syndrome, whether in ignorance or in more than definite awareness of what overshadows their whole identity, are not favourably purviewed in their range of self absorbing behavior of utterly selfish manifestations. Driving therefore the whole expression of the main character syndrome to such disrepute that the otherwise fancied fore of the mains falls instead into the ignominy of the shunned.


Not every aspect of this condition emergent from the towering shadows of the self is as definite a case for rejection though. Even in its depreciating enough essence in disregard, the main character syndrome can also profess to be as much empowering of the self. In such understandings that the syndrome can lead to that comes across as placing oneself in priority over the world, in nurturing care of the self and in furthering one’s sense of worth, this psychological tendency to view life in exclusively personal terms is perhaps what can make it rather effective a coping mechanism as well. In its more favourable seating, the main character syndrome is what enables us to acknowledge our own existence, to hold ourselves in such view of mattering that sustains despite the many a contrary notions perpetuated by the negative main characters of the world and to help us hold on to our own in all our assets and flaws. Entertaining perhaps such notions of living that urge us to realise the worth innate in all of us in our very identity as unique individuals special in our own right, residing along the set of behavior encompassed by the main character syndrome need not therefore be entirely dramatic in its lofty dreams of the self. It is in living our lives indeed as the main character without seeking to diminish the importance of the other people who also are as main a character in their own existence as we are in ours that the main character syndrome can be another social media breakthrough breaking out in its assertion of being among the many boons in disguise.