For most women in the world trying to make things matter in this cruel, unabashed world, it’s very obvious that sexism runs rampant in many of the tides of everyday existence. That’s bad for sure, but this does not mean that it’s only women who have to bear the brunt of words and remarks that pinch right in the feels. Men, though not necessarily in equal measure, are also subjected to prejudiced remarks and stereotypical judgements. Ironically however, much of the sexism directed at men stems up from stances that tend to put off the weaker sex, for yet another of those umpteenth times.
So what are those utterly sexist remarks that tend to rob men off their right to live and express freely? (Well, we realise we might be going a bit overboard with all the emphasis on ‘rights’ but trust me when you are at the receiving end of such blatant criticism of something that’s so natural to you and that’s not so outrageous as well, you do feel as if your entitlements are at stake). Here’s our version of the top 20 sexist remarks men are likely to identify with-
Boys don’t cry
Because letting the tears flow is something that is perceived to be so weak and therefore feminine that boys are denied even this basic expression of emotions!
What on earth are you dieting for? You need to build up some muscle, man!
As if lean men aren’t men at all! This though has more to do with the notion of men being more muscular and therefore ‘more powerful’ rather than body shaming instincts.al
Uh, you don’t have any interest in any sports? What do you watch, saas- bahu serials?
Sexist no doubt, but this sexism stems more from the notion pre conceived of gender bias in particular. Because girls like toys and boys like (sports) cars, it is given that women will like tele soaps while men should be inclined towards sports.
You are scared? Of cockroaches? What a girl!
We always thought fear was a very basic human instinct. We didn’t know it also had to be gender specific- read, exclusive- as well!
Aren’t you too emotional for a boy?
For some reason or the other, men are perceived to be dead inside. While you might consider this notion of masculinity as being inconsiderate of males as human beings, this perception is actually quite detrimental to scores of human relationships as well.
Nice shirt! You sure wouldn’t have picked that one. Must be a gift from your girl?
As if there aren’t top notch male fashion designers making their presence felt already! Style and fashion and of course beauty are perceived to be very girly matters because ‘men make the money, women spend it all on the honey’!
You let the girl take the bill on your date! How unmanly!
Men have forever been expected to work and provide for his family which in recent times has extended to not letting the girl take as much as a look at the bill on dates. And you blame just ladies for being the gold- diggers? Men, you have yourself and your mentality to blame for the fiasco!
Don’t tell me you don’t drink and/ or smoke!
Men aren’t expected to be teetotalers. Because being brash and abusive and unruly is all the stuff men are made of.
Creative arts? That thing’s for girls!
Science is for the intelligence of men, arts is for the demure creativity of women. We got your interests sorted, people!
Kya yaar? Ladki se haar gaya?!
Losing should be taken in spirit unless you lost to someone of the weaker sex. Then you are doomed! Because when you lose to a girl, you also lose your dignity and respect. Sobs!
Whoa! Your wife earns more than you? Where’s your dignity, man?
That is just a sure shot dent to your manly ego, that’s what they mean to say guys!
There goes the momma’s boy!
Be a girl attached to her mom and it’s so sweet. A guy does the same affection routine sowith his mother and he’s ridiculed as the ultimate Momma’s Boy!
What manly creature on this earth doesn’t watch porn?!
As much as women are shunned for their sexual fantasies, men are lauded for the same! So if you are a guy and you proclaim to have never been enticed by porn, then dude you will be ridiculed- either for lying or for being a naa- mard!
Mard ko dard nahiin hota!
Men don’t get hurt- that’s the logic the world supposedly goes by. Whether it be bottling all those feelings up or not even letting the tears find a way, it’s very obvious what men are expected NOT to do- get hurt that is.
You can’t even drive smooth. Are you a lady?
On the face of it, this is a sexist remark ridiculing man who can’t drive. However, it isn’t the fact that they drive bad- the point of greater bother is that ‘they drive haphazard enough as do ‘all’ women’!
So he’s one of those fuckbois!
For those who thought only girls are slut shamed, here’s the masculine version of it- ‘fuckboi’. Even men aren’t as privileged as we like to think they are!
Pink/ floral shirt? Auraat banne ka shauq hai kya?
Pretty in pink is perhaps the reason why pink isn’t supposed to be a man’s color. Handsome and daunting males are supposed to go for something more assertive and also, less timid. Even glitter and shimmery is seriously off bounds for men. Because women like their men dark and hot, not bright and flashy!
You got friendzoned? Poor guy!
While it’s assumed that girls don’t get friendzoned even when they legit do, men have to bear a greater burden in this case as well. Because the guy who has been named ‘just good friends’ by his crush is perceived to be unworthy and er, unmanly!
All men are trash. And you are no different.
Men have wronged women so many times that it is assumed that men are inherently just trash. Quite inconsiderate given that there exists genuine good men in this world who are actually sugar, spice and all things nice!
Men will be men!
This is one of the most ridiculous forms of sexism men can be subjected to. From giving them the freedom to behave the way they like just because they were born male to bashing them for being that way, it indeed is pathetic and apathetic at the same time!