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compulsive talking

Among the many things that humans absolutely need in their struggle in survival and also in their sane existence is one that emerges as the ability in talking. At once a skill somewhat innate but mostly learned and even evolving throughout the coursing in life, talking is important in so many ways. As a medium in communicating everything from practical demands and relevant news to laying bare one’s emotions and sentiments in that much poetic elucidation in articulating, words and phrases and sentences are definite armors in the human reservoir. And yet that does not stop talking from assuming also that identity in much notoriety, as leading someone to be dubbed the talkative kind or going on even to signify something of an alarming health rendition.

It is in such diverse expression of possibilities that talks and chats and conversations stir up even more important an issue of being something much more that communication. That, even when there indeed is no ‘real’ basis as to what talking should occur outside of its stance in being a communicative tool. Because despite the many musings that talking helps people foster and ponder over, whether in building connections or allowing willing access to their person or driving forward business ventures or simply disseminating information and acquiring thus as well, it still is doing what the classification as communication largely enables it to.

Consider for instance the surprisingly widespread case in talking largely about one’s own self. That might be communication for sure to someone wanting to know about you. But otherwise it’s yet another demonstration in someone being too full of themselves to drive the whole communicative desire to the back. The whole ‘ideology’ behind too much of self- talking- only that it isn’t with just the self is something only very human- the occurrence of it as a feel good assertion. Which means that too much of talking and talking about oneself isn’t necessarily bad, unless of course one is so promoting of their person that makes them much probable to be some degree of a narcissistic danger in the lurking.

It is in harbouring of such prospects in threat that talking isn’t always the skill that it needs to be. And threat it presents in not just the physical implications of that, but also in underlying assertions of what does not bode well for one’s reputation, both in personal and professional or pubic commitments of it. And while being too much entertaining of the tendencies to talk on and on and on might be a setback in itself in more considerations that one, it also is the associated entailings in what might possibly accompany this stage in talkativeness that makes this so essential life skill come across as something it would rather not be.

Much like overtalkers- obviously, folks who continue with their churn of words more than they ideally should in allowing for tolerance by others, it also is compulsive talkers who face the same disdain in their way too carried away identity. And prevailing through the characteristics of each of these similar but not still same group of humans is an even annoying fore in what make talking the antonym almost of what communication tends to be in the true sense of the term. The urge in wanting to talk all the time, compulsively and compulsorily, is naturally ordaining of the much irritating tendency in interruption.

This characteristic in interrupting again is one that resides in the feel good assertion of what talking about one self leads people to even when in a different line of realisation. At the same time being also something naturally occurring for the interrupter is this oft expressed nature of those who talk way more than they should- although what determines that extent of what asserts as worthy enough to pass of as a ‘should’ can again be calling for an excited discourse furthered in too much talking. Interestingly as well it is in this very ‘technique’ in interrupting itself that the compulsive interrupter can be chided for their furthering of such trait that is a general letdown for everyone whose actual intent in proper talking is disrupted by this facet of over excited expression.

But consider also the case of the opposite mostly in regard with the overtalker- or more appropriately the compulsively talkative one over their interrupting ‘skills’ and too much talking need not always be something that asserts as a habit to be frowned upon. For in their way in upsetting the world, they might indeed be upset themselves by some sort of a disorder driving them to such uncontrollable urge in speaking, whether about themselves or not. Compulsive talking or the other case in talking too much can be as classic a case in many an other more recognised such compulsive behaviors as most prominently compulsive buying for instance.

Hovering over the range of what can be expressed as any of the many attention deficit disorders as well as interpreted in experiences of anxiety or even as being someone within the autism spectrum can be the overtalking tending in some but not all cases. Even then though the general consensus on talking too much as being a culturally inappropriate behavior rules large the reception of those manifesting their identity through this aspect of their ‘knowingness’.

No wonder talkaholism makes for a definite presence along the range of such as representative terms in any kind of obsession- say workaholism, shopaholism, intended thus to evoke the extent of ‘uncommunication’ that it ends up fostering. And while wanting to talk a bit too much and a bit too long can be a cultural phenomenon indeed, that still does not create enough ground for it to find acceptance. And with such ideas of narcissism and egoism and the like frequently rounding up this trait in intrusive, impulsive, interruptive, irritating attempt at conversation- nay, just speaking rather, it is unlikely that overtalkativeness would ever be able to rise above its disrepute as something that is best dealt with in dismissal.

In fact so looked down upon is this tendency to blatantly ignore the ‘norms’ of what makes talk appear as conversational communication and not interruptive nonsense that has even earned it the even derogatory reference in verbal diarrhea. That, despite the possible health and/ or behavioral difficulties it might be indicative of and such utter shaming of talkativeness can be a shameful display in itself. Particularly for those who tend to blabber way too much when caught in situations of nervousness or anxiety, such disrepute brought upon them by such non deliberate cases in personal representation might even aggravate their experiencing of the difficulties.

To the defence though of the rest of the world who simply cannot stand such irresponsibility of folks seemingly ignorant of the civilised ways of existence is the fact that the nature of overtalking can be somewhat discerned and differentiated in relation to what it stems out of. There is a clear distinction in getting carried away in one’s own talk to not even realise the length and unlimitation of their act and such speeches that wholly stem out of a too vain perception of oneself. It is in their assertion also in such aspects of speaking that project their intention to dominate conversations and take over them entirely and even daring to impose their views and perspectives and words upon others to extents that even sees them being actively argumentative in that respect that these traits in talkaholism justify its belittling as such.

In such negative connotations of overtalking, it is surprising that people should come to incorporate this habit within themselves or not even really try to revert its continuance. The opinion confronting talkaholics might be one of much unfavourableness but the general tendency to accord such individuals who talk more such recognition in being knowledgeable enough to have the words flowing out of them or being assertive sufficiently to command the attention of their listeners is what contradicts almost the scorn that compulsive and over talkers actually face.

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Such generalisation in talkativeness as well as empirical establishments of them in such assertions as being indicative of possessing desirable traits in confidence and less inhibition as well as behavioral shyness though also give way to certain things in much irony. A frequent characteristic encountered in personality analysis of neurotic psychotic extraverts is the tendency to compulsively and continuously make oneself known in their words, irrespective of how badly received they might be.

A dwelling in duality therefore, with however a considerably greater lean towards the not very favourable is the trait in talkaholism that while might not be toxic as such can be troublesome indeed. Much contrary to their holding of themselves in such stature of being conversationally competent and functionally fluent in that extent, it is the ovetalkers of the world who ironically again emphasise more the essence of ‘the talk’ for the human being, as something that while might be an innate ability alright accessible to all in varying degrees of it, is still as important to be sensibly furthered as a skill aimed at aiding the essential conversation in communicating.