Beyond the ‘mere’ range of the emotions


an The current echoing of the ‘meta’ phrase might be miles away from its original occurring as a linguistic exploration. The essence though is more or less the same- of something that is abstract and creative and certainly thought- provoking irrespective of the expanse of what it reigns.

This meta understanding of what expresses in terms of the human emotions as something finding profound assumption as referring to one’s feelings about their own feelings sounds complex indeed. And there is every reason for them to assert as such- afterall with feelings bearing themselves the airs of a certain nuanced assertion, the entire dynamics of what engulfs yet again these brimming, even brooding expanses of thought in another bubble of complicated constructing would be assuredly startling as well.

In all their conviction of dwelling as psychological modes of conduct inevitably activated by the very human existence, metaemotions open up a world of psychology in which the conscious and the subconscious necessarily interact. Refer to them as the conscious feelings you think up after encountering an unconscious emotion or alter the arrangement such that what occurs would find translation as being unconscious emotions creeping in after a fully aware experience of happenings and metaemotions bask in the dual fame of being self-occurring or beckoned. Essentially then they also would present a complexer span of what the human being experiences in all amalgamation of their awareness in ’emoling’- a concept that is composite itself to quite a stretch of its convoluted essence and not really related as well to this particular exposition of psychology.

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The order in which they occur, as follow-ups of a certain essential awareness might relegate metaemotions to a position of ‘secondary’ standing. However this very aspect of arising enhances the significance of what they hold in fact, since in emerging as thus they manifest a character of multistrandedness. Not only are they more intricate, they also can be greater in intensity which however need not always be a measure of magnitude. Instead, the nature they embody in being deep delves into the core human character endows them with a complexity that leads them to assert as overwhelming expressions embedded in our psychological identity.

Part of such inordinacy of metaemotions stem from the conflict they almost always stir even when they would be a vital exploration indeed within the realm of emotional intelligence. This essence of the differential is also what renders metaemotions particularly poignant a consideration in this scheme and process of thoughts. Knowing that metaemotions indeed do exist and are commonplace as well and recognising the way in which they personally occur in us are necessary paths to tread if one desires to deal with their emotions adequately for an experience that resonates with the ideals of the human as well as every aspect of life needed to be lived through.

That is quite an advancement indeed that we have made from the initial stage of beginning to understand metaemotions. The notion used to be one exclusively explored in the context of parental relationship. But the realisation has expanded considerably since then such that has let us to be more conversant with the way in which metaemotional experiences shape our relationship with others as well as with our own dynamic selves.

It however cannot be denied that the unfolding of the parent- child relationship happens to contribute immensely to an individual’s awareness and acceptance of their emotions and feelings and the associated synonyms of what follows thereafter. And thus would metaemotions need to emerge upon this premise as how our parents reacted to our emotions through expression of their own largely determines the emotional identity in which we find lifelong residence. This brings us also to another crucial element in metaemotioning- of recognising also the existence of them as a reality as universal as primary emotions. Acknowledging this eternality of the emotion about emotions in others is what helps us maintain our personal relationships by learning to deal with the surprises of what might be on offer.

Such is the potency of the metaemotional experience that can go on to direct our entire emotional expression as well. Knowing that a certain feeling gained out of a specific experience can trigger a different set of emotions might lead us to avoid the very source of the first emotion in cases where it is possible. More generally, metaemotions has us orienting our feeling processes and mechanism either towards or away from them.

Navigating meta-emotions
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‘Devaluing’ however such enormous power of metaemotions would be the limitations that would prevail in some emotions never manifesting as secondary. And despite their general regarding as largely conflicting, secondary emotions can sync perfectly- even when not exactly with the ones from which they derive. But even in such nonconflicting behavior of metaemotions, the assertion generally rules in an overwhelming positing of negativity such that the very idea of having to deal with two sets of emotions occurs as scary. That, combined with the general dissonance that prevails as marker of metaemotions make this already intertwined occurrence of emotions strike as even more exerting a fore of the psychological.

Understanding this prevalence of an all-rounded negativeness in one’s emotional experience is necessary also in the related but distinct still concept of mental health. It has been an empirically observation through research that an overall assertion of negative metaemotion corelates to a higher risk of depression. Even an inability or undesire to accept our metaemotional experience can also induce feelings of depression, anxiety and lower overall wellbeing because we are repressing something that is indeed there. Considering these grounds of an existential essence across which they span in various capacities makes the perception of secondary emotions manifest as even more indispensable an account of our emotional identity that one needs to address indeed.

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Emotions are a part of our life- in fact they are a large part of what makes us human, even when they are not exclusive to us. This means that we cannot avoid them even if we want to, while wanting to steer clear of them itself screams of an unhealthy existence. Accepting these emotions however might present as an unpleasant prospect especially when one comes to regard such overwhelming nature of their dual occurring. But with proper conditioning and nurturing of our individual selves and processing the emotions that entail as part of that individuality of our existence, we can even grow and evolve through them.

The manner in attending to our emotions first and our metaemotions by extension such that they do not feel like elements of bother would likely occur as no less complex. It might even be ironical that the first step in overriding the bothersome quotient of these emotional occurrences needs to course through a greater awareness and acceptance of them. But here’s where the catch lies- in reflecting upon something so extensively that they do not even strike as unusual or upsetting is what works exactly in ensuring that one gets over the premonition of what they believe their ‘ominous’ emotions would lead them to.

The key is to be aware of one’s own self and embrace it as well, while ensuring also that the strands of not much purposefulness in holding can slip away consciously, albeit carefully. Mindfulness indeed is the panacea then for what is not any ill but merely ignorance that is practised, in hope that the darker tracts of quintessential humanness is skipped. Come to think of it and that only leads us to languish as lesser humans which of course is no status to covet. Minding metaemotions as matters that matter is so much lucrative then an option in laying one’s claim as being part of the dominant species.

Reflection in metaemotions
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Minding metaemotions also can mean that we develop our innate power of introspection. This perspective is appealing in the prospects of what it holds for our whole identity in general and our relationships in particular. When an outburst of anger is followed by an accompanying bout of guilt due to the realisation dawning of having overreacted perhaps, we are likely to be more thoughtful the next time we act upon such primary cue. The possibility though exists in being loathing of our own selves on account of such expression that might be somewhat far fetched. This makes way for another important realisation to seep in, of practising self compassion as a deliberate move until it becomes the organically occurring ‘phenomenon’ that it needs to be.

For a matter-of-fact stating of the fact of the matter though, there should not be any reason for one to regard themselves as inhuman simply because of the emotions they experience. One has no control over the way one feels indeed, for these are subconscious processes of working. Which is why letting the associated negatives of them affect your existence is pointless, if not worthless. But processing what entails through them as a necessary almost chance in analysing and reflecting and realising can be rather crucial and the concrete identity of their emerging as metaemotions helps indeed in a systematic and strategic study of what we as human beings should ambiently entertain as cohesive experiences of the mind and heart.

Metaemotional then is not just a concept concerning the dynamic range of what we feel- it is a greater arena in which we can strive to decipher a personal state of ideal existence.