Signing out from a shared account of love

why digital breakup is essential

Relationships are hardly ever only emotional. They sure tend to take off from the feeling expanse but always evolves to venture into spaces outside the mind and heart as well. And while that is true for every single bond shared by us through our life and times, the encompassing nature to such avail is more true of romantic relationships. The dynamic swipe across the fore of love that romances entail in their ideals of those ‘together forevers’ and ‘happily ever afters’ allude to a cohabiting in such extent and measures of it that sees the emotions inevitably cross over to every single aspect of life and living. Thus even as physical and mental and spiritual states of the existence of one intertwine with that of the other, their partner that is, what ensues is a mutual living in sharing and partaking of each other’s life across all aspects of it as well, whether that be pertaining to holding in common aspirations and ideologies and fantasies of conjugal bliss or taking into consideration access to utterly materialistic but equally necessary still elements without which life would be as dull as the one lived without some sprinkles of the sparkles of love, the togetherness of romances and love relationships more passionate than the pursuits of the platonic, and extending to involve as well the family purview tends to be an experience more steeped in the sharing virtues. With such pronouns as us and ours generally taking centerstage as against the I, Me and Myselves and also the you- yous of individuality, unfurling therefore love in as heartwarming renditions of it as possible, the very mode of living experiences a shift from the adult notion to be wholly and exclusively responsible for oneself to instead amass such dimensions of shared responsibilities and willing divisions whether of labor or entertainment that translates to a greater essence in exploring the virtue that extols sharing as caring.

But with such intricately involved and associated trails of the living of two distinct individuals, there ensues also a whole lot of deliberations that need to be effectively worked out particularly when the situation arises of a parting of ways, as lives once happily cherishing of each other’s company struggle to eke out once again their solitary pursuit of existence, distressed indeed and perhaps even shattered or broken but still in need somehow, in someway of the possessions that continue to manifest their own individual importance and status. For love for once can be unreal but material things, in the very nature of them are always, irrevocably and essentially ‘real’ as in what is defined of them in their physicality. And while splitting up such riches as property or tangible belongings, no matter how little or how big they might be worth, is a case in relative clarity even in the complicacies of them, the associated change in character of entities as these but pertaining to the digital range of modern existences make for a trickier split to maneuver. This ‘breakup’ of ties also across the digital assertions of them needs to be more mainstream an exploration of the reality of relationship dynamics than what it tends to be commonly, as a matter of not just reasoning and logic but also as something really essential as well.

As a stereotypical assertion of love in sharing even the most intimate of ‘secrets’, the questionable act in password sharing between couples might be a proposition harbouring of too much mushiness of almost dizzying limits if not one that violates outright the very premise of what a password needs to be, but as one of the most common of ‘relationship validators’, this is an act that accounts for rather commonplace an expression of the intensity of one’s love. Pursued almost as a step in establishing the highest level of trust possible, as an attribute upon which stands the very basis of the bond of immense love and ultimate romance, password sharing is a rather ‘risky’ prospect that most lovebirds end up charting out, some in utter surrendering to their swearing by the trait of transparency, others obligated instead to yield in to continue their sweet sailing along the love flow while still some others pursue instead this course of romance as no big or small a deal to ponder over so much.

Generally explored along the platform of the highly undulating unpredictability that the massively popular portal of social media tends to be but also extending well into other areas of interest as diametrically different as could be, say for instance that special string of characters that allows access to uninterrupted streaming of entertainment content to a hundred times more sensitive, confidential information protected by your net banking password, even the most simplest, almost mindless acts of password sharing as an extension of once sharing your lives can spell doom for couples who cease to be. Which is why breaking up digitally needs to command at least as much importance as what first and foremost characterises the emotional parting of ways between people who lose out on the love that once saw them through and of course the physical split that precedes or succeeds as the case might be, as a step of achieving in very absolute terms what that breakup intended to. Not just for closure though is it essential to block this alternate route once pursued in romance but also in such potential flaring up of veritably legitimate concerns pertaining to digital privacy and financial security as part of the more holistic realm of personal information confidentiality that it becomes so very important to ensure that your romance transgresses the traditional aspects of it as deftly in its sad ending as what it had done all through its boisterous living in the profound realisation of love.

The very concept of digital breakup though tends to be a bit ambiguous, open as it is to also such interpretations of ending relationships across modes of the digital that make for a different matter of concern altogether. And because severing of connections and ties over texts and messages or even mails and such other numerous ways availed out of the advances made by the digital explorations of the increasingly smarter world including also such amusing means of effecting the breakup by blocking or unfollowing one’s past partner for life is indeed as real a phenomenon, the assertion of the corresponding character of digital breakup needs to be clarified at the very outset. Our present area of concern though intends instead to be that fore of the not so sweet endings that hold surprising potential to tap into the immense power of what your personal data and private information amasses in that seemingly random draw of mere characters.

Not to assume that any one of you once rosy lovebirds would turn out to be petty enough to exploit this once validating claim of love as a purposeful way of exacting revenge but one hardly can ever be sure about the dynamic unpredictability of the human nature. Even without any such malicious furthering of a love turned sour though, the mere sharing of passwords poses more than enough threats to your digital presence and ultimately invades indeed upon your real world space inevitably. From humiliating indeed posts and pictures likely streaming through your Instagram stories to disturbing knowledge gained of the current spree of steamy shows your ex is playing out with the present love of their life to being faced with the most scariest of prospects of having been robbed of all your hard earned money through the sure shot trail of hacking that you had allowed to be so easily set up by too much furthering of trust, even when it isn’t your ex taking such undue advantage of that trait of your character and that extent of faith on their person, the very ordinary recourse in password sharing can prove to be a ploy for all your future problems. Also, there is no reason to think that your ex would not be sharing the login credentials of the Netflix account with their new partner who in turn might share it with others since that’s the way the streaming giant has been (s)pawned out to be, making your confidential data a commodity so readily available to put you at an alarmingly high risk of vulnerability. Disassociating therefore on the digital front needs to encompass higher a degree of importance than even the more tangible nature of the breakup so as to ensure that a romance gone awry does not run further than that along the cord of life.

Password changing therefore commands utmost priority when it comes disentangling digitally but there also are other ways to disconnect that should be scouted out as well. Wiping your browser history and deleting your downloaded files counts as well, as does the need to not call out to *the* Alexa of your sharing (however ridiculous that might be sounding) while disabling such features otherwise helpful and even necessary like location sharing to ensure that your current place of standing cannot be tracked by someone not in your life anymore. This serves a dual purpose of preserving one’s security and privacy while also being a more full-blown means to at least be aiming for complete detaching from the relationship because shared instances of any sort and type disrupts indeed the process of uncaring. Because ultimately, romantic breakups need to be as thorough and absolute as what had been the defining essence of the wholesome love relationship for one to get over it completely. Whether it be living in the real world or asserting one’s identity across the digital realm, love and breakups should be as fulfilling for life to come full circle.